After rereading yesterday's post, I realize that I owe a huge apology to my wife. I allowed anger to cloud my judgement on what I posted and it was wrong. The way I posted it makes it sound as though my wife is evil, coniving and self centered. Nothing could be farther from the truth. The disagreement we had was based solely on mutual misunderstanding and was solved to both of our satisfaction. We have since made up and have moved on (at least until my wife reads yesterdays post and I have to apologize all over again, which I will do when I get home). I made a mistake and will deal with it when I get home. It should also be noted here, that as of this post, my wife has not read yesterday's post and thus may not know of what was written. Thus this apology is not prompted by arguements or otherwise. I am sorry, dear, I will speak to you on this when I get home.
I was going to add on to this post a seperate commentary on an unrelated matter, but realized it would muddy the waters and possibly dilute the first part. So I will end today's post with this. Men, just because you feel wronged (even if you weren't) is no erason to air it publicly. In a loving relationship, who is right has no bearing on the outcome. Solutions are the goal of every conversation (and argument) between you and your wife. It doesn't matter who was right (and, by proxy, who was wrong) only that you solve your problems and move forward. To dwell on the mistakes of others is to live with the results and mess of those mistakes rather than to correct them. The longer you point fingers, the longer it takes to find a solution and move on. I could keep spouting cliches, but you get the picture. I didn't until last night. Thank you to my lovely wife for pointing me in the right direction (again).
Thanks for reading and, as always, have a great day.
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Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Tuesday, May 1, 2012
Short Hiatus
As you may have noticed, I am posting this way late. That is because I have been shifted to graves..again. Yes, that wonderful shift that keeps me awake when I really want to be sleeping. That shift that messes with my sleep cycle in a major way. That shift that just destroys my ability to function like a human for days afterward. In case you hadn't noticed, I am not a fan of this shift. For that reason, I will be taking a hiatus for the duration of my tenure on this shift. This is for a couple of reasons.
The first is because, as I get tired, I tend to ramble....a lot. This leads to me sometimes being a bit, shall we say, incoherent. In other words, my line of reasoning becomes less reasonable and I find myself typing things I would rather not have typed (I usually don't catch it until someone points it out or I go back months later to reread what I posted).
The second reason that I tend to lack motivation to do so consistently. Concentration is difficult when you are tired and simply following a train of thought requires effort that doesn't seem worth it at the time.
For these two reasons, I am suspending my posts for the Month of May. I will be back once I am back on days in June and hopefully I will have a store of topics with which to entertain you (let's be realistic here, I will at least write a little).
Thanks for reading and, as always, have a great day.
The first is because, as I get tired, I tend to ramble....a lot. This leads to me sometimes being a bit, shall we say, incoherent. In other words, my line of reasoning becomes less reasonable and I find myself typing things I would rather not have typed (I usually don't catch it until someone points it out or I go back months later to reread what I posted).
The second reason that I tend to lack motivation to do so consistently. Concentration is difficult when you are tired and simply following a train of thought requires effort that doesn't seem worth it at the time.
For these two reasons, I am suspending my posts for the Month of May. I will be back once I am back on days in June and hopefully I will have a store of topics with which to entertain you (let's be realistic here, I will at least write a little).
Thanks for reading and, as always, have a great day.
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Relations: they're all relative.
Another Wednesday. So much is happening that I just can't seem to keep up. I recently sent a letter home to my church asking for forgiveness for how I lived while I was a member of the congregation. They should receive the letter in the next couple of days. As a part of this, I asked my family members for forgiveness as well. I even emailed a copy of the letter to my sister. That is when things got interesting. I received an email from my brother in law. He was reaching out to me. The funny thing is, I never really thought about it. I owe him an apology for ignoring him. I really didn't mean to, every talk we have had has been an awesome experience and I thoroughly enjoyed them. It just never crossed my mind to call my sister to talk to her husband. Why it didn't, I'll never know. I think that it will be the start of a great relationship. Now comes the fun part of figuring out each other's schedules (we are 2000 miles apart) so that we don't interrupt each other at work. I look forward to it.
I find myself wondering where to go next with this. I find that the research I was planning on doing for the upcoming elections is going slowly (read as, I haven't started yet). Every time I tell myself I am going to start, I end up staring at the computer trying to figure out what to do next. Oh, well. Anyway, I really haven't got much to say.
The pretty much sums up things today. Thanks for reading and, as always, thanks for reading.
I find myself wondering where to go next with this. I find that the research I was planning on doing for the upcoming elections is going slowly (read as, I haven't started yet). Every time I tell myself I am going to start, I end up staring at the computer trying to figure out what to do next. Oh, well. Anyway, I really haven't got much to say.
The pretty much sums up things today. Thanks for reading and, as always, thanks for reading.
Thursday, January 12, 2012
My Dad: The unrecognized role model
This week keeps getting more expensive. Yesterday, I found out that it would cost more to fix the dryer than it would cost to buy a new one. The funny thing is, it is still usable, although annoying to the extreme. So we are going to save up and buy a new one when the newest models come out (we will by the previous years models on sale). Hopefully it will last that long.
With that in mind it is time to move on to today's topic. With everything that has been happening, I have realized just how much I learned from my dad. I have a decent understanding of how septic systems work. I understand home plumbing and can do a lot of the electrical without getting shocked to bad. I have a decent understanding of what it takes to run a garden and the list goes on. I saw a lot of different repairs and projects with my dad and he taught me about most of them. The funny thing is, I don't remember paying that much attention while they were going on, but I remember the lessons and what they meant.
These practical lessons are what has really stuck with me and shaped a lot of what makes my dad to me. Sure, I remember some of the games we played together, but most of my memories with my dad are centered around jobs I did with him. Watching him work and his interaction with those he worked for and with, shaped a lot of how I approach things today. I can't remember dad ever uttering a single cuss word or speaking badly of anyone. The closest he ever got to talking badly about someone was when he referred to people as characters. You know, "that guy sure is a character." You may not have known whether he meant it in a good or bad way, but you knew that whoever he was talking about wasn't playing with a full deck.
This isn't to say dad didn't have his opinions, he just kept them to himself unless he was able to make a change. I can't imagine that anyone could find anything disagreeable about dad if he ran for public office, other than the fact that I don't think he would want the job. I think the lessons I learned most about dad is, he has that innate ability to make you think about what it is you are going to do and say with out saying a thing.
Where does that lead me? It leads me to the conclusion that dad didn't just claim to be a Christian, he lived it. I can't think of another living person that has had such a quiet influence on my definition of Christian than my dad. I am not saying that I don't know any other good Christians, just that my dad has shown me that definition his entire life. Why do I say this now? Mainly because it has only recently come to my attention. That's right, I didn't recognize the role model I had growing up until I was trying to be one to my own kids. Somehow or another, I failed to see that there was the model of what I want to be today trying to pass it on to me as I grew up. So I guess, what I got to say is, dad, forgive me for ignoring you and thank you for living in God's ways and giving me that example to recognize today.
OK, I am getting all choked up. Thank you for reading and, as always, have a great day.
With that in mind it is time to move on to today's topic. With everything that has been happening, I have realized just how much I learned from my dad. I have a decent understanding of how septic systems work. I understand home plumbing and can do a lot of the electrical without getting shocked to bad. I have a decent understanding of what it takes to run a garden and the list goes on. I saw a lot of different repairs and projects with my dad and he taught me about most of them. The funny thing is, I don't remember paying that much attention while they were going on, but I remember the lessons and what they meant.
These practical lessons are what has really stuck with me and shaped a lot of what makes my dad to me. Sure, I remember some of the games we played together, but most of my memories with my dad are centered around jobs I did with him. Watching him work and his interaction with those he worked for and with, shaped a lot of how I approach things today. I can't remember dad ever uttering a single cuss word or speaking badly of anyone. The closest he ever got to talking badly about someone was when he referred to people as characters. You know, "that guy sure is a character." You may not have known whether he meant it in a good or bad way, but you knew that whoever he was talking about wasn't playing with a full deck.
This isn't to say dad didn't have his opinions, he just kept them to himself unless he was able to make a change. I can't imagine that anyone could find anything disagreeable about dad if he ran for public office, other than the fact that I don't think he would want the job. I think the lessons I learned most about dad is, he has that innate ability to make you think about what it is you are going to do and say with out saying a thing.
Where does that lead me? It leads me to the conclusion that dad didn't just claim to be a Christian, he lived it. I can't think of another living person that has had such a quiet influence on my definition of Christian than my dad. I am not saying that I don't know any other good Christians, just that my dad has shown me that definition his entire life. Why do I say this now? Mainly because it has only recently come to my attention. That's right, I didn't recognize the role model I had growing up until I was trying to be one to my own kids. Somehow or another, I failed to see that there was the model of what I want to be today trying to pass it on to me as I grew up. So I guess, what I got to say is, dad, forgive me for ignoring you and thank you for living in God's ways and giving me that example to recognize today.
OK, I am getting all choked up. Thank you for reading and, as always, have a great day.
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
Weekend up date and other things
Tuesday and all is well. OK, sort of. The usual stuff is going on. Soccer practice, rehearsal, and meals. Maybe that is why I am going insane. I just keep going on with things that I have to do and places I have to be. So close and yet so far. Am I rambling, I think I am rambling. Guess it's time to perform the weekend up date.
Here goes nothing. This weekend my brother in came in for a few days. I think I mentioned that Friday. Anyway, it was a good weekend. The weather was nice so we were able to enjoy our sons' soccer games. They both did well. We were busy Saturday because of it though. Sunday went well and we were able to enjoy ourselves further. That is until I had to go to work at 9:30 pm. I had to work graves Sunday night. There was only 1 job, but I did OK. At least I got to spend Monday at home. I did sleep half the day though. That is why there was no Monday post. That and it was my anniversary. That's right, 13 years of marriage to the most wonderful woman in the world. Here's to, oh, let's say, a few millenia more. The topper came when the Cowboys won on MNF. Good day all around.
This isn't to say that nothing bad happened this weekend, just more good than bad. The down side of this weekend? My phone has decided that it doesn't want to charge properly. I have a work around so I don't need to get a new phone, it is just darn annoying. Most people would say to just get a new phone, so let me explain why I don't want a new one. Yes, dear, I just said I don't want a new one. First off, I don't want to sign a new 2 year contract to get a new phone. I retire and leave the area (probably) in about 16 months. This means that if I go to an area that Verizon doesn't cover, then I will still have 8 months left on a contract for a phone I can't use. Thus no new contract allowed. Secondly, we aren't rich and thus can't afford to shell out the $200 that a new phone costs without a new contract. Thirdly, I am limited in what phones I can have right now as I am not allowed to take a phone with a camera on it into work (my current phone doesn't have one so I am OK). The next time I get a new phone, I want to get a nice one and that means it will probably have a camera. If I wait until after I retire, I should be able to get the nice phone I want. This all adds up to no new phone for me. Sure I may have to trade batteries with my wife's phone every morning, but that isn't to much of a hassle. I will deal with it.
So that was the bad side of the weekend. It probably wouldn't have been that bad, except that I went off a bit when I first found the problem and now my wife is convinced that I want to drop $400 on a new phone. Now, every time I note that the battery on my phone is dead, I get to hear a worried lecture on how we are broke and can my new phone wait. I think I've said, I am fine with my phone and that I'll work around it at least a dozen times now. Hopefully this will change that. If not, I will live with it. That's what I get for freaking out that I didn't have a phone. For those of you who don't know us all that well, I love my wife deeply and do not mean any of this in a negative sense. I refer you to the opening announcement of my 13 years of wedded....OK, maybe not bliss, but definitely mostly happy times. Hey, it's marriage and life, and thus it isn't always happy. My marriage is about 90% happy (the remaining 10% is 5% my fault, 1% hers, and 4% confusing) and that is pretty darn good. Especially, with 4 boys in the house. That being said, I will probably hear about this post when I get home and my wife and I will talk about this and hug afterwards.
Keep your chins up, and don't let the world get you down. Have a great day and I will post tomorrow. Thank you
Here goes nothing. This weekend my brother in came in for a few days. I think I mentioned that Friday. Anyway, it was a good weekend. The weather was nice so we were able to enjoy our sons' soccer games. They both did well. We were busy Saturday because of it though. Sunday went well and we were able to enjoy ourselves further. That is until I had to go to work at 9:30 pm. I had to work graves Sunday night. There was only 1 job, but I did OK. At least I got to spend Monday at home. I did sleep half the day though. That is why there was no Monday post. That and it was my anniversary. That's right, 13 years of marriage to the most wonderful woman in the world. Here's to, oh, let's say, a few millenia more. The topper came when the Cowboys won on MNF. Good day all around.
This isn't to say that nothing bad happened this weekend, just more good than bad. The down side of this weekend? My phone has decided that it doesn't want to charge properly. I have a work around so I don't need to get a new phone, it is just darn annoying. Most people would say to just get a new phone, so let me explain why I don't want a new one. Yes, dear, I just said I don't want a new one. First off, I don't want to sign a new 2 year contract to get a new phone. I retire and leave the area (probably) in about 16 months. This means that if I go to an area that Verizon doesn't cover, then I will still have 8 months left on a contract for a phone I can't use. Thus no new contract allowed. Secondly, we aren't rich and thus can't afford to shell out the $200 that a new phone costs without a new contract. Thirdly, I am limited in what phones I can have right now as I am not allowed to take a phone with a camera on it into work (my current phone doesn't have one so I am OK). The next time I get a new phone, I want to get a nice one and that means it will probably have a camera. If I wait until after I retire, I should be able to get the nice phone I want. This all adds up to no new phone for me. Sure I may have to trade batteries with my wife's phone every morning, but that isn't to much of a hassle. I will deal with it.
So that was the bad side of the weekend. It probably wouldn't have been that bad, except that I went off a bit when I first found the problem and now my wife is convinced that I want to drop $400 on a new phone. Now, every time I note that the battery on my phone is dead, I get to hear a worried lecture on how we are broke and can my new phone wait. I think I've said, I am fine with my phone and that I'll work around it at least a dozen times now. Hopefully this will change that. If not, I will live with it. That's what I get for freaking out that I didn't have a phone. For those of you who don't know us all that well, I love my wife deeply and do not mean any of this in a negative sense. I refer you to the opening announcement of my 13 years of wedded....OK, maybe not bliss, but definitely mostly happy times. Hey, it's marriage and life, and thus it isn't always happy. My marriage is about 90% happy (the remaining 10% is 5% my fault, 1% hers, and 4% confusing) and that is pretty darn good. Especially, with 4 boys in the house. That being said, I will probably hear about this post when I get home and my wife and I will talk about this and hug afterwards.
Keep your chins up, and don't let the world get you down. Have a great day and I will post tomorrow. Thank you
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Another Short one
Today is free military day at the local county fair. Should be interesting. We are going to try to go and see how long we last. We usually leave early as the kids get worn out. Maybe this year we will get to see the bull riding. I doubt it, but maybe.
The thumb is feeling a little better, but the fact that it has a huge bandage on it means I can't use it and have to hold it in an uncomfortable position while I type. I should be able to reduce the size of the bandage in a week or so and I will return to my normal posts then. In the mean time, I apologize for the shortness and lack of content. I really do feel bad that I am not posting more detailed posts (for lack of a better word). Anyway, I thank those of you who haven't given up on me. Thank you. Have a great day.
The thumb is feeling a little better, but the fact that it has a huge bandage on it means I can't use it and have to hold it in an uncomfortable position while I type. I should be able to reduce the size of the bandage in a week or so and I will return to my normal posts then. In the mean time, I apologize for the shortness and lack of content. I really do feel bad that I am not posting more detailed posts (for lack of a better word). Anyway, I thank those of you who haven't given up on me. Thank you. Have a great day.
Monday, August 15, 2011
Shortened thumb = shortened posts
This week I am skipping Manic Monday as well as a shortening my other posts. As you may or may not know, on Saturday I managed to shorten my thumb by about an eighth of an inch using a mandolin slicer. Thus it is rather uncomfortable and slow to type without it. As soon as I get better at my typing without using the thumb (right now, I get sore form the weird angle I have to hold it), I will resume my normal posts. For those of you who find this disappointing, I apologize and would undo the damage if I could. Thank you for your support and good will. Have a wonderful day.
Friday, July 29, 2011
Apologies and updates
First off, I need to apologize for yesterday's post. I was cut off in the middle of writing it as I was sent to the other office. After re reading it, I realized just how bad a light it put on my wife and I apologize. My wife is a very supportive and caring woman. The post was meant to be a humorous inward look at how money can affect the questions we ask verses what is actually meant and it failed at that. There may have been a small amount of truth to some of it, but I did not need to air it out here. If I say I can fix something, my wife is very supportive. The same is true if something is broke and I say I can't fix it. As for the "it's fine portion," that is only partially true. I exaggerated it quite a bit. The truth is, that as long as it isn't dangerous and performs its function for the most part, she does insist it is fine, and it usually is, otherwise she does allow me to get something new when we can afford it. Being a man, I just want it to work perfectly or I "need" something new. This doesn't give me the right to make fun of my wife. I truly love her and I was wrong to have hurt her so.
Now that that is out of the way, I can get to the meat of my comments. My Brother in law, Joe arrived yesterday (we knew he was coming and he was invited, so sit down.) This makes for some interesting conversations. My wife will yell for Joe, and she gets two guys wondering what they did wrong. Just kidding, when she yells Joe, I know she mean me and I can usually figure out what I did. It's the softer "what do you want to do, Joe?" that gets us. We decided to go camping tonight. It should be interesting as we will be camping at the campsite near us. At least we have some clue of what we are doing and can avoid the whole what do you want to do conversation. It really is great having him out here. We have good conversations and connect on so many things. Unfortunately, I have duty on Sunday which means I won't be able to see him off. This also means you probably won't get a Manic Monday post again next week, but may get a Sunday post instead. Well, I have stuff to do, so I will sign off for today. Have a wonderful weekend, and enjoy your time with family. And yes dear, I am sorry for yesterday and I do love you.
Now that that is out of the way, I can get to the meat of my comments. My Brother in law, Joe arrived yesterday (we knew he was coming and he was invited, so sit down.) This makes for some interesting conversations. My wife will yell for Joe, and she gets two guys wondering what they did wrong. Just kidding, when she yells Joe, I know she mean me and I can usually figure out what I did. It's the softer "what do you want to do, Joe?" that gets us. We decided to go camping tonight. It should be interesting as we will be camping at the campsite near us. At least we have some clue of what we are doing and can avoid the whole what do you want to do conversation. It really is great having him out here. We have good conversations and connect on so many things. Unfortunately, I have duty on Sunday which means I won't be able to see him off. This also means you probably won't get a Manic Monday post again next week, but may get a Sunday post instead. Well, I have stuff to do, so I will sign off for today. Have a wonderful weekend, and enjoy your time with family. And yes dear, I am sorry for yesterday and I do love you.
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